Dealing with Adult Bullies On Top of Health Issues

It's Monday, January 17, 2011.  Since my last post we have adopted a new tortoiseshell cat that we call Sookie.  We got her from the City of Hurst Animal Shelter.  Why adopt a pet?  I cannot tell you the number of humans who have saved my life when I have fallen into a deep depression and thought there was no way out short of God taking me home.  Philip and I had broken hearts when Jasmine had to be put down on December 18, 2010, and Sookie has brought back life to our home.

How did I come up with the name Sookie?  One of my friends turned me on to watching the cable tv series "True Blood" then I started reading the Sookie Stackhouse books by Charlaine Harris and there you have it.  My Barnes and Noble nook is full of Sookie books and now I have a Sookie in my home.  Is my Sookie cat a fairy with special powers?  Not really.  Right now we're working on litter box issues but in general she is a very friendly cat and anyone who enters our home is not a stranger to her.  Philip is a little rough with her but with his ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome, he doesn't always grasp when Sookie has had enough.  Lucky for Philip, I had Sookie's front paws declawed yet she still manages to get him with her back paws!


I haven't been doing too well on my Nutrisystem but hey, I'm honest.  One night my spouse commented on the calories I ate on some lemon shortbread cookie fingers that were a Christmas present from my Aunt Gene Douglas in Tennessee.  Hello honey, that is called depression and eating for comfort.  That's not all I ate and I still struggle with wanting to purge my food so I don't gain weight.  I thought I was FAT when I weighed 135-155 pounds and was a size 10.  Now I'm a size 18 and have the purging thoughts but am trying hard to lose weight the healthy way but it's frustrating.


Tonight we are having a new mattress (foam like those famous brands only I didn't shell out $3,000) and box springs delivered.  I hope it helps with my back problems.  3 months of physical therapy (May, June and July 2010) and I still feel bad doing my exercises and using an ice pack.  I went back to my handsome chiropractor and he is well worth $40 for an adjustment that takes a few minutes over 3 hours in physical therapy. 


I used to think there were only child bullies at school but trust me, I found adult bullies at Philip's school and that is something I don't make light of.  http://www.wikihow.com/Respond-to-an-Adult-Bully  This link explains it doesn't end in school folks.  My son was being picked on and so was I.  It's not nice to be someone's target to the point they ruin your reputation by gossiping to others about why they don't like you then you get a TRUE friend who comes to you and says she wants no part of  that gossip but feels I deserve to know to put an end to it.

It was so bad I resigned 2 PTA positions I was really excited about to avoid my bully.  The aftermath continued so I contacted my lawyer who was happy to help as he is good at what I call "bitch slapping."  I went to my doctor and got a note on doctor RX pad basically saying in my doctor's handwriting that I was not to be put in any stressful situations due to my health problems.  By resigning my 2 positions and getting that doctor's note, my lawyer said I was in no way obligated to keep putting up with the bullying crap.  But it didn't stop there...


I made sure to call our school principal and make her aware of the situation.  She was floored.  She had heard nothing about me and I told her that I was threatened by higher level PTA that I was under PTA authority if I volunteered at school.  I told her I didn't want to see this situation come to a lawsuit and proved to her I could make this bully's life a living hell if she didn't stop not just bullying me but others I mentioned by name who I would protect.  It made me feel GOOD to hear the principal say that NO ONE has the right to determine who can VOLUNTEER at HER school.  The principal knows I'm like the school's Santa Claus as I do a lot for the school financially that other parents cannot afford to do.  She was there for me when my first husband died when Philip was in 1st grade and knew I was not lying about the life insurance policy that could fund a lawsuit.  

What is funny to me is I have found out that my bully has since talked to two of my friends trying to feel them out for information about me, basically saying to them I must really hate her.  My inner circle would never tell on me and both friends basically said they wouldn't discuss it, the damage had been done, and they weren't going to be used to get to me.  Am I polite to my bully at school?  Yes.  Do I hate her?  No.  Do I think she has issues she needs to deal with and because we have similar personalities we will never be close friends?  Right on.  She and I used to get along fine until she developed a clique.  Some will say a clique doesn't exist but those of us not wearing rose colored glasses know better.  Do I believe in karma?  Yes.  Do I believe that God can punish this woman for any wrongdoing better than I could ever dream up myself?  Yes!

I learned a valuable lesson.  Don't get taken advantage of.  Volunteer at school in areas where you shine and do it for the teachers and the students, not for someone with a bossy personality who isn't appreciative.  We all have our bad days but there is no excuse to take your stress level out at someone else.  If you don't think you can approach me, do it anyway.  Write me a note.  Send me an email.  Facebook me a private message.  Send me a text message to my cell phone.  I'm not the type of person to say I am perfect by any means but going off on me either in private or in public only lets my Queen out.  Smart people know when it comes to me, my "Queen" trumps "bitch" every time.